He's telling friends he thinks we'll reunite

[MarieC]

The silent treatment does not make me want to reach out to anyone, though - it makes me want to stay away from them.

That said, I haven't written back to him since last Friday, when I wrote a note based on MWD's clip on infidelity, in which she recommended saying that I'd be willing to listen if he has anything to say. If not, I told him, and if he's happy with the choices he's made in his life, I will just continue building my new life and we can finish off the last bits of our old life (he is trying to keep as many ties as possible, it seems to me, even those that cost him money he can't afford to spend - I make more than he does and I spend less) when I get back to Germany next week. Not a peep since. From either of us. And this is after he's been so chatty for almost a month.

So, am doing what you recommend - just wondering if it's the right approach with this particular man, in this particular situation. As I said before, he's shy so it must have been hard for him to initiate and then keep initating conversations - to which I barely responded. He does not have it in him to crawl back across broken glass - I know that much - and I don't think I should make him, either.

I didn't make him sleep with that bimbo, I know. He's an adult and he made that choice on his own. I just don't know how to approach this - as an alcohol issue, or if it's a MLC or he felt he wasn't getting his needs met?

Did you get back with your spouse? I see you post a lot. Did what you are pushing work for you?