Standing, When DB'ing becomes unhealthy

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One of the wonderful things about these boards is they give all who post here the freedom to express themselves and their views.

Standing is a very individual choice and we all do it for different reasons. Just like we all stop doing it for different reasons.

Bottom line, statistics should not give you hope or discouragement. They are no more than a manipulation of numbers. Statistics say you will probably never win the lottery but many many people continue to play.

While I don't often agree with BH, I do not think he ever says anything to intentionally hurt anyone. And I have to disagree with any assessment of someone's healing based on reading one or two posts.

Whether someone is brand new to this or a 10 year veteran, there comes a point where the reality of ALL options need to be faced.

When we don't look at every possibility, we are just burying our heads in the sand.

It is also facing reality to recognize that not everyone is going to sugar coat or be Mr. or Ms. Sensative to people's feelings with their words. We all have different communication styles. Some are much more harsh sounding than others.

This thread, brings up some very good points, even if people do not want to look at them.

Standing CAN become unhealthy. It CAN make us stuck. There comes a point where, if we have grown and healed and learned, that we are willing to recognize it if that happens.

I do believe there are people here and elsewhere who stand longer than they should. Longer than what is healthy.

I might, in one of those instances, try to give them a wake up call, so to speak, and I think that is all that BH is doing. While you might not like how it is coming across, the intention is not as bad as some have made it.