If you've already told her all of that, then the ball is in her court, and there is nothing else you can do.
Stop forcing the "better husband" issue. Be a better man and a better father. The marriage you had before this is gone.
Is there hope for one in the future? I don't know, but it won't happen just because you keep saying you want it to happen. It's not up to you anymore. She is making her own decissions now.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-