The thing is Marie, MWD does not specialize in infidelity, her main focus is rebuilding marriages that arne't plagued by an addictive affair...
Penny Tupy SPECIALIZES in affairs.. she does the same work MWD does and they are colleagues... MWD is a mentor of Penny... Penny focuses on infidelity and has a proven track record there...
Penny has practiced her methods for hundreds of cases, this isnt' just theory from a random poster... its from an book in infidelity she has written...
Others including W Harley who also specialize in infidleity advocates the same approach as Penny does... Glass too is a specialist in teh field and reccomends treating infidelity as an addiction...
You can think being more inviting will bring him back, but experience has proven otherwise... He's addicted.. he must learn fully what he will LOSE in order to end it...
It matters little if anyone has seen teh convo take place, in HIS MIND you are interacting post exposure... this undermines the exposure efforts you have made if you contact in in any way after that...
To his mind its an act that sends a strong message that you are ok with his cheating and it isn't hurting you... whether that's the case or not that's what he's getting when you talk with him in any way
