Thank you for that link. It was definitely interesting and may perhaps one day be useful for me, as there seems to be so much MLC-related garbage in my husband's mind right now.
He doesn't seem to be fooling himself that I'm fine with his behavior; in retrospect, after reading the emails he's sent me of late, he seems to have been making overtures - that I missed. And he seemed genuinely happy to see me - not manipulative or smarmy or Don Juan-ish - to have seen me.
I think he kept trying to look into my eyes to see what's going on with me, but the fact that I wanted to get away from him - and did go away so fast - was upsetting to him.
I know Allen's well-intentioned but I don't think his approach will work with us. I think I may have made my H come across differently than he is - he's a gentle person, not a Casanova. I don't think he thinks it's at all fine with me that he's with Bimbo - and I don't think he's fooling himself that our friends or the rest of the community (with the exception of the drinkers and philanderers he's friends with) approve AT ALL of what he's done.
I am just trying to figure out the way ahead from here, with DB methods, and could use some advice - especially from some folks who might have had some success with overcoming a MLC affair. It seems a lot of the old hands aren't around any more - or maybe I'm posting in the wrong place?
Discovered OW1: 1/10, H refused to talk. H moved in w 1st OW: 3/10 H cheated on OW1: 12/10 H left OW1, moved in w OW2: 4/11 D: 9/11 Still miss H. Don't understand, H just left, never even talked w me.
