Need a Plan for My Marriage

[LSG]

Maybe I could not have averted the situation, but I could have handled it way better when there were chances I see now to make it better. I just did not see them as clearly as I do now. I am not the same person as I was when this began. I still have ups and downs, but that does not change how I deal with things now.

I could have done 180s and detached sooner. I would not have let the intel make me do decisions without thinking through what I should say or do. I think it may not have helped my M, but I believe it would have helped me more.

I do see things in my M that would have helped, but I think there are things that both of should have done.

I have been doing my best for me these days and the kids, and at this point that is where I am currently in my sitch.