I asked my H the WHY, why didn't you tell me that you were unhappy, why didn't you tell me before the affair that we need to fix such and such or you will leave? His reply: "I don't give ultimatums"...
Heard it before, and we'll hear it again when somebody else posts it. It's about not taking ownership for their role in the poor communications that lead to marital problems let alone taking ownership for the affair which they did all by themselves.
Stop pursuing this avenue. You aren't going to get any answers that way.
The affair made your H feel good, and that's all that mattered when he got involved in the thing. The affair is not in any way your fault.
The poor communications were probably partly your fault, but look at what your H is telling you : you should have read my mind.
You can't read minds, he can't read minds, and only people who fool themselves believe they can read minds.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
