"People don't change", I'm not sure I agree with it. People change when they really want to or if they have to.
I agree with you Daddy; I've asked for a lot of changes from my H in our M, and have been making a lot myself. MWD's book 'Change Your Life and Everyone in it' has helped me a lot. Now that I've begun to change, my H also has in response. And it's happening because my attitude and communications - ie that which he is responding and reacting to, - has changed.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.