W was not laughing today and happy the way she usually is. She is the one on the offensive this time for once.
She was very surprised. When the Sheriff came, she was in the shower. I told her that someone was here to see her. She said who. I said the Sheriff. She asked "why," and I said I don't know. She came out in a towel, and she was served.
She wasn't quite as smug as when you were served and she had that sweet lilt to her voice and sweet grin, was she?
I know you did something you wish you didn't have to do. I know it was hard to do. And I don't mean to take any pleasure in her reaction, no "how does it feel, you b*%#h".
However, now you are in control of the sitch, your reactions and your response to your W. You can show her that you are not going to lay down and let her walk all over you. That is a great thing!
The coming weeks and months are going to be rough, to say the least. You have proven to her that you will not be taken advantage of. Keep standing up for yourself and for your kids. While it may be too late for the M, you can get a measure of respect back and show your wife the man you really are. That is always a good thing.
It is a good thing. But he needs to understand it will take years for her to see it, and of consistent attitudes and behaviors. The goal should not be to show her who he is, but to simply be it.
