Twice we separated and that 'did the trick' - the third time we did not separate but a major health scare came up and that 'fixed' things. The way our lives are right now I just can't see what could possibly be the major impetus for things coming back together.
There is no trick to this.
Do you think this may be why you keep coming back around to not being together? Because neither of you has apparantly worked on what ever it is that is causing these feelings within you.
Honestly, if I were you, I would not want to attempt to reconcile right now, based on the track record, because you will come back to where you are now.
Lather, rinse, repeat. You know?
Great for shampooing, not so great for a marriage.
Originally Posted By: fudwoman
I felt nothing by fear. I think most ICs are all about supporting divorce. Wish I had some plan or direction of how to proceed.
Direction how to proceed...
Start by taking the focus off of the M, try to figure out exactly WHAT you are afraid of, work on yourself to make yourself a better person, to remove those fears, and find your center.
And step back while your H hopefully does the same thing.
Then, maybe see if things can be improved within the M. There is no other way really. You have seen that already.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
