I think you are totally correct! He, at this point, does not have anything romantically for me, because he has someone else in mind. My S told me last night that he went bowling with daddy, uncle and the girls...what girls I ask? He says one was with uncle and the other was just there...he couldn't remember their names.
I most definitely am going into hiding and actually texted to let him know last night that I feel like he is not focused on us and I am not interested in being the backup plan or play the sidelines while he looks around...and I'm off to be my mysterious self. It's hard to want to be with someone who doesn't want you when you have other people who actually want to be with you :-/ I've always thought my family is so much more important so I would hold tight to waiting...but he truely thinks I'll be here waiting for him forever...for him to sow his seeds and learn all his lessons. I love myself and my life...and I am ok continuing on without him. I just fear for him having to go the rest of his life living without us..it's like he doesn't want the last opportunity he has been given...it's not exciting enough for him.
Last night I texted "hey...i told myself this time that I wanted to be upfront and honest..I feel like you are not focused on us and persuing other relationships...that is fine but since i said i wouldn't date other people if you were coming around again i figure i owe you a conversation regarding the matter...i'm not interested in being a back up plan or play the sidelines while you look around...i have enjoyed our family time but i think it will be more confusing than good if it will be ending soon. Feel free to let me know your thoughts"
I got a text back saying "we'll have to talk"
:-/ I honestly don't really know what there is to talk about. I'm actually ready to get back on with moving on with my life that I was 2 months ago. I'm good!!
Honestly, he doesn't have too much to offer us. He loves to go out and party and drink all night and is more excited to hang out with his 19 year old pot smoking brother. He's a cop!
Last night was his night with our S but I got him back because our S was freaking out all day wanting me to pick him up. Our S is 4 and knows more than any of us are aware. He gets that he isn't top priority for daddy again right now...daddy's phone is It's sad for me to sit here and watch him do this AGAIN! But I STILL can't save him from himself!
It's sad for me to sit here and watch him do this AGAIN! But I STILL can't save him from himself!