In the case of infidelity no, I don't agree with MWD that continued contact helps.. IN my opinion I think it just results in teh infidelity being prolonged unecessarily
a. He won't miss you if you keep feeding him emotional contact b. He gets the ego boost of feeling like you are in his pocket still
If you cut him oFF... COMPLETELY... He will go into a withdrawal type of situation.. it takes time, but it does kick in...
I agree with MWD UNLESS there's an affair giong on... in which case no, I don't think continued contact helps, I think it just prolongs the affair and puts the marriage through a lot of needless anguish.
Here's a sample protection phase letter :
From SYMCINC.com Penny tupy:
Protection Phase Letter:
Dear ________,
I love you and I married you for life. I want to remain married to you. I am willing and committed to doing what it takes to be the spouse you've always wanted and to address the things that I did wrong in our marriage.
The affair is so painful for me that it will destroy the love I have for you. In order to protect those feelings I must end all contact with you. As soon as the affair is over I would love to talk with you about our future. Until that time please respect my wish for no contact whatsoever in any form.
In an emergency you can reach me through ______. Arrangements for seeing children and handling finances are_____.
Sincerely, [YOUR NAME]
THIS is a bold statement, if you have an auto reply setup on your email to SEND this to him EACH TIME he emails you and you IGNORE the email he will keep getting the message
