How is he using me? He's not getting anything from me but the briefest of answers to his many questions. (I often ignore some of his questions when he asks them.)
Also, do you agree with what MWD has to say about DB-ing? I think she has a lot of good points about being willing to talk and listen but to (as they say in Alanon) protect yourself as much as possible by "detaching with love." That's my approach, especially as alcohol is playing a role in this. MWD and a lot of the midlife crisis literature say that bimbos and booze are a symptom, not a cause of MLC, so I take that into consideration with how I am approaching this. I am not being welcoming, warm, approving, smiley or any of that to my husband, but I think I may have gone too far with going dark, as (having read over his many emails over the last few weeks) he really does seem to have been trying - on multiple occasions - to start a conversation.
He knows that sex is out of the question with me as long as he's with bimbo - we've already been through this as he tried.
Red (and anyone else out there) - would also love to hear what you think.
Thanks for the insights, both of you.
Discovered OW1: 1/10, H refused to talk. H moved in w 1st OW: 3/10 H cheated on OW1: 12/10 H left OW1, moved in w OW2: 4/11 D: 9/11 Still miss H. Don't understand, H just left, never even talked w me.
