Hope it's ok if I hop onboard

[fudwoman]

Ugh - in a funk - man I hate when I'm down. Just got a dose of reality splashed in my face last night about H basically still not loving me anymore or 'feeling the same about our marriage' - I know 'DUH!' - but it still hurts to hear it again. I wish I had some idea what to do. I've been thinking back on other difficult times in our M - none of which happened when we had kids. Twice we separated and that 'did the trick' - the third time we did not separate but a major health scare came up and that 'fixed' things. The way our lives are right now I just can't see what could possibly be the major impetus for things coming back together. Yes I realize this should not be my focus and yes I realize that it may never manifest. Maybe even the most dire steps that this path leads to - the big D - won't reverse the trend. He is convinced he no longer loves me and that's just the way it is - he says that he had 'hope that I would change for so long - but that hope is the death of marriage'. He told me last night that he's not spoken to anyone about our 'situation' - but that he might at some point do so or even see a therapist. I felt nothing by fear. I think most ICs are all about supporting divorce. Wish I had some plan or direction of how to proceed. I'm just curious how many of you have spouses that were willing to do MC?

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