Callasdad, You need hard proof of what is going on. All the signs are there that your wife is having an affair (sucks to be you.) You have to deal with the emotions, gather intel and then prepare your self to set boundaries on her behavior.
Your wife doesn't respect you right now. She feels entilted to do whatever she wants and she wants to keep you off balance/second guessing everthing. Don't respond to anything if you are not sure of what to say. Take care of yourself and your kids.
Use the board here to ask questions, unload and get a gameplan. You can handle it.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
