Folks, I really do not mean to rain on anyone's parade, but as I have said before, we can slice this up anyway we want to, but most of these people do not come back. If any of you wish to stand forever, that's your right. If you want to believe most of these people come back, by all means believe that. I am a numbers person and have been here long enough to have different beliefs. Sorry they don't match some of yours. Likemenow, I did a lot praying during my time of separation, I was confused, scared, worried, just like everyone else. Low and behold, the Lord put someone wonderful in my life, much better than my XW. Guess what, if I had laid on my tail and "stood" for 4 years while she did what she wanted, I would have been ALL ALONE. You need to think about that, remember, God helps them who help themselves.