He's telling friends he thinks we'll reunite

[MarieC]

Thanks so much, Red, for your thoughtful response. I really appreciate the time, effort, and insights you put into it. I feel really alone in this situation and despite everything, still love him. I've had almost 12 years of nothing but good experiences with my husband - this craziness started 5 1/2 months ago but I can't forget what a good man he was and how kind and loving he was to me - until I confronted him about his drinking and my fear that he would fail his thesis, not knowing that he'd already done that once before in his life...

Allen, thanks for writing, too. Our entire discussion was under a minute but then became too much for me. I just tried to be as dignified and polite as possible and to escape before I risked any tears or real conversation, as I didn't think I could keep it together. I succeeded in maintaining my composure but I did get the impression that he was offended that I didn't want to take his offer of a ride and wanted to get away.

I can understand taking a hard line and cutting him off if he weren't making some kind of overtures to open lines of communication with me, but why - if I refuse to even talk with him - should he leave the bimbo (who has his clothes ironed to a "T," who cooks and cleans for him and doesn't care how much he drinks, and has a reputation in town for being "easy" so God knows what she does in bed - besides giving ME chlamydia!) I would like to try to reconcile but if I just give him the cold shoulder and allow no communications, how can there be ANY progress?