Ok, EXPERTS. She's busted! My flowers sealed the deal. She asked if I had input on the flowers. I said yes, pionees and lillies. She sai that's what she got. Then, brazen as all hell, she says "and later in the afternoon I got more but there was no card. Probably everyone at work since I was nervours about practical jokes on my b'day". I said that's nice.
What she wasn't thinking about is there are only two flowershops in the town she works. Further, the clerks are female and usually sensitive to stories about "potential stalkers" and " my wife is crying right now". Coughed up the name (a coworker- a guy who actually participates in a manufacturer program I run in West Canada); the card was there and he hand wrote it so the girl didn't see it. All I needed.
So, if the card was inappropriate enough for me not to see or for you to acknowledge was even present, then this relationship is inappropriate at the very least. I don't have evidence of PA but close enough. I even have the guys cell number on his card if I could access her phone records.
Can't believe she'd even mention this -- she IS getting brazen and sloppy, which, from my own experience, means it's been going on for a while. She's either looking to get caught or thinks she's so clever at hiding the affair that she can say or do anything and you'll remain totally clueless (which fuels the excitement).
Well, at least now you have a name.
I'll defer to one of the veteran guys like Puppy or Allen on how to proceed, but would suggest that if you have someone who can keep an eye on OM and report suspicious activity, to do so. The more ammo you have, the better.
