GOOD NEWS: W apologized for what she said this morning. She also deleted OM from her FB account and asked him not to come to her work. She is being nice to me this evening. She also may be able to set up a work area at our house so she doesn't have to go anywhere and she asked me if she could use the dining room. I said, "Of course you can use the whole * house if you want to! That would be great!"
OM is calling her cell phone and leaving messages asking her if she deleted him from FB (which she did, not me). She is not answering his calls now for about a week.
See? The venom-spewing alien took the night off and your wife has returned for a while. This is excellent! Maybe - just maybe - OM will get the clue to leave her alone.
I still say he's obsessive and dangerous, though, and your WW needs to take legal action to keep him away from her...