detaching while holding on? Yikes. I'll just focus on detaching and having the ocassional chat... see where that gets me.
Hehe yeah better to detach completely
Originally Posted By: blind
It sounds like there are some big problems with him and the person he is... if you still love him and think it can work, then I really hope it does.
I must say, he is a really nice guy to everyone else. But the huge problem is that he expects way too much from a partner and M, and he doesn't have much experience in R. He thinks you get happy M out of sheer luck with no work... so he's disappointed that I wasn't a princess charming in some diamond armor! Haha!
My DB coach told me the whole point of doing this is to learn about R, to learn what will prompt which behaviour. It's like training a puppy she said, reward them with success (positive communication) ignore negatives. When you are armed with this skill you'll be ok in future R... whether that's going to be your S or someone else.
Take it one at a time (positive chit chat for now) and worry about everything else as it comes. Otherwise it's too much. And congratulate yourself with the baby steps. So! I give you A+ for this class hehe who am I to say
P.S what triggered the stitch was the overseas move isn't it? Moving so far is really stressful.
hehe who am I to say
