Hi Sosadny. thanks for the response. funny enough the W has said that our communication has been lacking @ times. i have tried opening up more and letting her in. it has been the hardest thing to pull back just when i want to tell her how much i love her. i am trying to cultivate patience like a madman. very HARD to do. : ) i have broached the idea of going away to her just she and i, which she has not seemed too open to. at times i have conveyed to her in not so many words that i am committed to her, to us and to our family. funny enough couple days ago my 4 y/o said the darndest thing, "daddy is in love with you." the innocence of little ones. from the mouth of babes.
i do like the idea of broaching the subject of infidelity, especially an EA. she is on her phone a lot w/ that FB app. i am locked out so who knows what's going on. could be nothing or could be something. i have asked and she has denied there being anyone else but then again she would do that even if there were i guess.
what makes all of this worse is our neighborhood. it seems like everyone is having problems. misery loves company, eh? worse yet are two couples, one divorced and one impending D. the first was bc of a MLC by the H and the 2nd was bc of both parties i guess. put my W in that crowd and who knows what they talk about.
i have tried to maintain my hope and good will towards her. having a PMA is key. would you want to be around someone who mopes and is constantly texting/chasing after you. i like to believe that i am a good father, provider, do not avoid household chores, am trying to GAL and CAN be a good friend/husband/confidante. again. i want a new marriage built within the ashes of the old. out with the bad and in with the good.
i hope u r right that recon is possible, and would absolutely agree that it will not be a short trip. all one can do is try. i have now started saying "nothing less" as in nothing less than the best from me, in my personal life, my professional life, my spiritual life, my family life... this forum and reading the various posts and suggestions has been very enlightening and helpful. i am open to all comments and insights from those who have travelled down this road before.
