Yeah I know, she could be done and I cannot MindRead. I just really never had a chance to show change. But oh well, once my weight is all the way off, and a new wardrobe I shouldnt have any problems attracting women. Its just we have a kid together, and I guess deep down keeping the family intact is a motivational factor for DD1.
M 36 W 29 Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months Daughter 15 months Bomb 4/22/10 Separated since 4/25/10 OM 6/10/10 Hopeful, but moving on
You won't need to show her your changes. She will hear about the weightloss from friends and others. If she is interested, she will be asking them. That may be one way in the future that you know she is interested in coming back too....through friends.
Yeah, then changes are for me shocked one. I mentioned changes to her on the phone her reply was this " Oh so you can change and get me back and then right back to being a jerk" something to that effect.
These are changes I been needing to make for a long time now, with or without her. I have really found strength in prayer these days. It really calms me down when I get uptight, I close my eyes in the sun and pray. Open my eyes and that wonderful shade of blue as I open them in the sunlight. It makes me feel like someone is listening.
I have been praying alot for God to take away her anger and to guide her so she makes no wrong moves in her life. For god to really fill her heart with forgiveness.
Other changes then weight, is basically a laundry list of stuff that were her complaints. When i was depressed I seen no WAY out. Now that I have my senses back and depression is gone, I am able to think of ways to improve across the board, and if only I had been that way while she was here, I know shed have been much much happier and maybe wouldnt have blown up so much.
M 36 W 29 Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months Daughter 15 months Bomb 4/22/10 Separated since 4/25/10 OM 6/10/10 Hopeful, but moving on
James, the only bad thing about it is I fear she is over the loss of not having DD1. And with alot of time on her hands she is dating men. I cannot stand this, but she said she was done.
If she had DD1 all her time would be with DD. So in a way it really did backfire.
M 36 W 29 Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months Daughter 15 months Bomb 4/22/10 Separated since 4/25/10 OM 6/10/10 Hopeful, but moving on
I have been praying alot for God to take away her anger and to guide her so she makes no wrong moves in her life. For god to really fill her heart with forgiveness.
That's not how things work. People have to make mistakes in order to learn and grow. God doesn't keep you from making your own choices and mistakes.
You have to embrace the difficulties and failures in your life, learn from them, grow stronger, and get back up on your own.
The difficulties we face are one of the greatest blessings we can ever be given if we grow and become stronger having faced them.
But the choice is ours. We can fall down and stay down, or we can get back up.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
James, the only bad thing about it is I fear she is over the loss of not having DD1. And with alot of time on her hands she is dating men. I cannot stand this, but she said she was done.
You need to take the focus off her and focus on you and your daughter. Stop doing this to yourself.
If she runs to other men in order to feel better about herself instead of facing her failures and stepping up to her responsibilities, then she will not grow, but that is her choice.
What is your choice?
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
Timeheals, I live in a house and employment is very solid and I am a professional. I do have another daughter and I am not poor. Just rebuilding things after 1 bad relationship that caused me to lose alot of money and also this one now.
The second one is not as bad, the one before was a 7 yr relationship.
Timeheals, I live in a house and employment is very solid and I am a professional. I do have another daughter and I am not poor. Just rebuilding things after 1 bad relationship that caused me to lose alot of money and also this one now.
The second one is not as bad, the one before was a 7 yr relationship.
Do you have to travel? If not, do you have any pets? A dog is nice because you can (once they are old enough) get out and walk the dog. Kids love dogs too.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
