I think you are doing beautifully. I know it breaks your heart to see your son so sad. I know it broke mine. Just make sure your son knows that none of this has anything at all to do with him and that you are there for him if he ever wants to talk.
And good for you for going to an attorney to get information. Being informed is always a good thing.
Your h is going to be moving closer and then distant and up and then down. That's why they call this a rollercoaster.
You just keep the focus on you and your son. Do whatever you feel you need to to get through the day. You are at the beginning of this and this is the most difficult part.
If it very important for you to remember to take care of you.
When you are aroung your h, keep it cordial and light. Go about living your life, not as a tactic, but because that is what you should be doing.
This is a great opportunity for you to find out what makes you happy, what makes you feel good inside. It is a time for you to figure out the things you want to change about you and for you to start being a little selfish. Your son is going to be living his life more and more independently - which is as it should be.
So, what is something you always wanted to do, to try? What is something you can do differently.
I got a new haircut and dyed my hair. I love it! I started taking some college classes. I joined a walking group. I went back to reading. I made a few new friends.
IB, I know that you are heartbroken. I wish I could say something to take away the pain.
I can promise you that if you take this journey and I mean really walk it, you will find out amazing things about yourself.
So, take it one day at at time. Know that you will have days when you can barely make it through, but as you continue on, you will find that you can get throught 2 days without crying and then three.
