Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

[elvencat]

But she told me that her mom said "I should back off and talk to my own family for a while".

If her mom didn't tell you directly, don't believe it. I'm not believing any second knowledge right now, and it's helping. If her mom wants you to stay away, her mom needs to tell you. Your wife is calling you "pathetic". Why would you believe her when she is trying to keep a stronghold on what she seems to think is her only real backup as you are being blamed for making her "lose all her friends"?