WAW Using God II

[pigskin]

Oh pigskin,

Geez, I'm sorry you are hear but I'm glad you are at peace. As for OM's OW, why not inform your w that you don't want YOUR kids over at OM's place if there are going to be OW's there, so they are not exposed to any more OW's when they're there, "since ya know, OM dates OWs and all"....
why on earth would HIS son make it up and have HIS mother tell YOU???
No motive to lie and too detailed to be false...

As for L's, I'm glad you are shopping. Feel a "connection" to one and let that be a guide. I'm serious. Knowledge is power. Don't get all cheapskatish either, (think about what is really at stake, and whether you should start skimping NOW)

but make sure the L has actually gone to trial once in awhile, so you know they will IF needed. And since your W seems able to rationalize and compartmentalize, expect some interesting justifications on her end. (Or total surrender and a major flip out.)

(SIGH)

Pigskin, I feel for you. I really do. Someday a lucky woman will meet you and you WILL get past this my friend, you really will. You're right. There ARE women out there who just want a normal guy who treats them decently. (See Faithisbelieving's thread for a funny and interesting take on what's out there at our stage of life...)

((( j )))

Well, the OM IS nailed for at least having a woman at his apartment. He admitted it to his wife and explained it as the woman spilling something on her shirt and changing prior to going to her hotel room.

I've settled on a lawyer, guy has 30 years experience in family law, and a lawyer friend of mine had his dissolution done by him, so I feel I'm in good hands.

Journaling:

Got a message on the machine from my W saying "something has come up and I won't be home to take the kids, so I've asked my mom to pick them up". Keep in mind she had just told me she was going to visit a friend for four days returning Wednesday, never admitting she and the OM were flying off together to spend a long weekend.

Talked to MIL and she said my W told her OM's mother died (she had cancer, so not too much of a shock) and W is with OM and his family in his hometown. Interesting side note: OM's dad has been married 4 times, so I'm guessing if OM's mother knew about what OM was doing she would not have been too supportive.

MIL lives almost 2 hours away, and my sons have baseball games on Friday and Saturday. Obviously W didn't care that the boys would miss their games. I stewed over this, thinking the affair is now impacting something the kids really enjoy. I decided to have my MIL take my daughter and just have my sons stay with me. I have a lot of work to do that I was planning to get done later in the week when my W took the kids, but I'll have to manage through that.

Told MIL about the OM's son's story about the woman in his apartment, just so she would know what she is dealing with. I told her I wasn't sure what to do with the info. She suggested I do nothing for now.

I don't really want to use it to spite my W (OK, maybe a little) and I certainly don't expect it to bring her back - I wouldn't take her back under those conditions anyway. But I don't want her to become a basket case and unable to handle our children when this jerk ends up cheating again, on HER.

Anyway, the disrespect and offenses are just piling up from my W. In a way, it makes it easier to distance myself from her. The more I am repulsed and disgusted, the easier it is to put her behind me.