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[knightinneed]

My sitch is so far outta control Jstar, well you would likely have to read for yourself, its a mess as we are separated and heading toward D.

My WAW wants D so I am going to let her file it.

The behaviors of being mean to one another sounds a lot like myself and WAW. Honestly Jstar if I could do it all over, I would do it like this.

If we get into heated discussion it is ok to take a break go cool off, take a walk, go to Wal Mart and look around a bit. You have stop the escalation any way possible, because when it escalates like it did with WAW and myself it became out of control.

Also, sometimes it is ok to just Validate and agree and be sincere that you see his point of view rather then try to force your point of view on him.

Yep, if I could do it all over in a time machine, I would bet that 75% of all of our arguments would have been head off at the pass by listening, validating, and taking a breather.