How do you meet someone?

[Gardener]

Lilac,
This is a great idea for a thread. And excellent posts so far.

My thoughts:

..."OMG I need to date again"?

My approach, for now, is "No, I don't need to date." I expect to want to again at some point, but need? I believe need is a bad reason for me to do anything. But I am not relationship-ready, as they say, by any means, yet. Everyone here has heard me say ad nauseam that I am going to live my life and see who shows up. That said, I have been breaking out of my life-long below-the-radar comfort zone and noticing women (and their ring finger, their bearing, eyes, attitude, vibe, etc.) and striking up conversations pretty much anywhere and everywhere. Talk about a (scary) 180! But it's been fun. And a confidence-builder each and every time.

Where have all the nice fellows gone? And those that are around where do you find them?

Maybe this is where we can really help each other on this thread. I asked the women on Newcomers this question once and got the same answer from two or three -dance classes. I have begun, and having fun talking to, holding, dancing with women but could use some other ideas on "where have all the nice women gone?"

Right here, on the DB board!

We are all the discarded nice guys here on DB board.

I've often said that values-wise, determination, selflessness, and damn-near-human nobility are all over these boards and we should be dating each other!

My instinct has been to plan to stay off the dating sites. Horror stories I've heard elsewhere - and the comments on this thread - have only served to affirm that instinct.

Thanks again for a great thread. I look forward to following it, learning and chiming in.