TimeHeals- Apparently I'm not that patient! Actually I've never been that patient...My H's indecision, my loathing of the thought of another divorce (this is my 2nd M), counseling, this board plus some family issues had somehow kept me holding on. In the beginning it was tough, I was counting the days, and then weeks, and then months and then all of a sudden more than 3 years had passed. I cringe at the thought of it. I tried to end it 6 month ago but my H came back and said he missed me and wanted to move back. As the C said, my H has trouble pulling the trigger. It doesn't really matter to me anymore. Looks like you are fairly new to all of this...I wish you the best.
Originally Posted By: peacetoday
you dont seem ready to really let go
peace- I'm as ready as I'm ever going to be. I can not keep doing the back and forth thing. It isn't good for me and it isn't good for my kids. There are times I miss my H but overall I am fine. Monday when he sent me the document to have notarized, I was already feeling a little sad and then it hurt more to just get the document like that. He just seems so cold and business like when he emails me the divorce stuff. I guess sending my H the email back was my final futile way of trying to help him realize that his behavior is far from normal. I admit there is still a part of me that hopes he will still pull his head out of his a$$ but even if he did, I'm not sure it isn't already too late. My H would have to a 180 and be totally committed to the M for me to trust him and I don't see that ever happening. Anyway, today my H sent me a couple of unnecessary emails...neither of which I replied to. Maybe they were nothing but I feel like he is testing the water. If he keeps it up, he will find that the water is pretty chilly!
