i am concerned that he stringing me along, but at the same i do want to see him, to date him. that was his suggestion, but only if i 'get a job'. the problem with that is kind of stirred up in my divorce, you see, my counselor think i have ptsd from abuse and if i work it will just prove that he owes me less alimony, it also would simply change the way our finances are split, to where i have to give him some of it. i want to work it out, but if i can't i want as much money as i can get, of course. i'm so screwed. i was thinking abou sayng nothing and ust letting my attorney send my counter offer. he is trying to put off the divorce until the statute fall soff for the abuse i think and i can't file a civil suite for personal damages.
Yes. Say nothing and let your attorney send the counter-offer.
"Get a job and I might come back in 6 months" is an insult, and yes, he knows that would save him money so he is holding out the 'if you get a job' to see if you will jump through that hoop.
Stop trying to get him to work on the marriage.
If it helps you get your feelings out, go ahead and write letters that you DON'T SEND, at least not based on your emotions of the moment. There is no hurry.
