Ok, EXPERTS. She's busted! My flowers sealed the deal. She called me when she got my text about me taking our daughter shopping since she was going to mom's. I half expected her to go somewhere else but she headed towards home. Then she asked if I had input on the flowers. I said yes, pionees and lillies. She sai that's what she got. Then, brazen as all hell, she says "and later in the afternoon I got more but there was no card. Probably everyone at work since I was nervours about practical jokes on my b'day". I said that's nice. What she wasn't thinking about is there are only two flowershops in the town she works. Further, the clerks are female and usually sensitive to stories about "potential stalkers" and " my wife is crying right now". Coughed up the name (a coworker- a guy who actually participates in a manufacturer program I run in West Canada); the card was there and he hand wrote it so the girl didn't see it. All I needed. So, if the card was inappropriate enough for me not to see or for you to acknowledge was even present, then this relationship is inappropriate at the very least. I don't have evidence of PA but close enough. I even have the guys cell number on his card if I could access her phone records. So, experts, I need your advice on next step. I called a friend at the phone company and he has no way to pull the records for me. I doubt her mom is aware of this man. I know the guys boss and the owner of the company. How would they feel to have a home-wrecker on the staff? I'm thinking a major WELL THOUGT OUT confrontation/boundary lesson is in store. Perhaps accompanied by some 'separation paper" and the 'keys to the street'. My daughter and I need not be subjected to this behaviour. She cannot consider returning to 'our' relationship while she has an E or P attachment elsewhere. But I promise to do absolutely nothing until I hear from a few of you. Thanking you all in advance.
