Just found out she already filed

[ImprovedRomeo]

Thanks Alice, you're right and what bugs me is that she's counting on what she's getting from me right now and her current rent situation. Both of which will change. Court will see I'm having trouble making ends meet and hopefully the payments will get reduced. Once her friend sells the house she'll have to rent elsewhere probably costing more.

Kerry you're right especially in our county the court will favor public school. Even though the private school really is awesome the reality now is we can't afford it. If I agree to sending dd to the school even on her terms I'll likely be on the hook from the court since I conscented to the idea.

As for the after school costs I doubt it'll be anywhere near what it'll be for a public school and it'll be divided half/half between us.

You're right about the districts too but she rents in the other district so I think she'll qualify.

Most importantly I don't want dd to have to change schools yet again in a year or two that will be really disruptive to her.How can she say "for stability" and say for a year or as long as we can send her there. These sort of things need to be thought through.

Not sure how to get this all across to her without pissing her off. She always said I criticized her for everything and that's how she'll take this. I also think she's in a lala land thinking I'm some kind of a millionaire. Maybe she doesn't realize I'm having a tough time after what I have to pay her. So how should I tell her all this?

Lastly when she comes over on the to get her stuff should I bring up what things I would like to keep or let her do the talking? I'm afraid once she gets her things she might want some part in my hobby related things.