imo, he's trying to get you to get a job, so his alimony will be lower. If YOU want to get a job, then do so, but don't do it just to please your X or get him to work on your R. You deserve better and with time you'll see that. I was you a few years ago (married to a critical atty who saw me as worthless because I was a sahm), and I've learned life is so much better living surrounded by healthier, more supportive people.
You shouldn't try to do any of his required conditions including a job unless that's something you personally 100% want for you. imo I would move on and try to detach from him, and only consider reconciliation if he is willing to work on his issues.
