Your words of wisdom have restored my faith. I've had a bad couple of days, mainly just missing him so badly. Yes, only I can determine when I have given it my best shot, and it's time to stand down. I love my husband with all my heart, but, for myself, I know that I will not be one to wait years. This is his 2nd affair in 20 years. I stood through the first one. It's kind of like living through cancer and then, it returns with a vengence. I don't know if I have the stamina to keep up. I'm not setting a date, but the time will come for me sooner rather than later, and it won't be measured in years. That is not because I don't love my husband, because I do with all my heart, but because I owe it to my family and to myself to say WHEN.
