Well, this woman and I had plans to meet for pre-wedding pedicures today. When she texted me, I responded: "I can't come. The news u shared with me yesterday turned my stomach. I am just so sad for your husband and children." Separate text because I ran out of space: "Given the personal grief I am experiencing, I can't be neutral. I know the grief your family will experience first hand."
She responded with a "I'm so sorry to put you in that position. I told OM that I was cutting it off - after seeing your pain, I couldn't do that to my family." Thank God!