It sounds like you are afraid of your W's anger.....I am correct?
I strong confident man (traits women find attractive) is not afraid of a woman who is angry. He might validate and say "You look/sound angry. It must be hard to feel that way"....
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712