The story of us

[elvencat]

Hi abqbelly. Sorry you are in this spot. I haven't read your whole thread, so I want to warn you about that ahead of time, but when I read your possible email, I'm afraid all I saw were the negative you said this but did that comments. In my relationship with my H, I'm learning that unless I quit reiterating every little thing he's done to bug the crap out of me or is holding against me, he won't hear the message I'm trying to get across.. I just come out sounding like a harpy. I suggest keeping things short and simple... how does this sound compared to what you wrote?

I spoke with my therapist and bo about our conversation and thought about it some, and I have this to say; I believe in marriage and I believe in the sanctity of it. I have given you forgiveness and love and commitment, and that's all I have asked in return.

I went to Dr. Rose alone to try to figure out ways to work on myself and us. I took proactive steps to better myself and our relationship. I can't fix your anger that you brought with you into our relationship. I am willing to not go through with this divorce if YOU care enough to move back in and go to therapy to try to get past what YOU can't get past. It would be a positive, proactive step to healing yourself.

I will NOT, however, be tortured by being kept hanging in limbo and having to jump through hoops until you either go away or I am so beaten down I have nothing left to give anyone because I gave it all to you. If you are not serious about working things out and learning how to have a loving, supportive marriage like I am, I would like to get the divorce done.