I know this much, she has to work this out on her own, on her terms and in her time.
Man I know you just read my thread.
I don't know how far you went back.
Read it again back where Brooklyn hit me with a dose of reality.
I know you think (as I did) that your W is trying to take baby steps back to you.
I remember when you started this thread.
I also know how much you love your W.
I understand. I understand the moment you are in right now.
The last line in your post up there is what you need to read.
Read it and understand what it means.
It means you don't have a M. Your W is not coming back until she is able to work this out ON HER OWN.
This is the hardest thing I have had to learn so far.
Your love has to transcend your wants and your desires. This is hard Miss.
It f@cking hurts to do it because you just want her close again.
The irony here is to get her close again you have to go away.
You've got to let go and live your life.
Let her go on her journey.
No more pressure.
Listen to what she is trying to tell you.
I didn't want to hear it either.
I know your talking like you have this in check but you don't and you know it.
What is this tuesday? I am two days into letting go that is how recent it is.
Before Sunday I had myself convinced that W was on the verge of telling me she wants our M.
We can convince ourselves of this because of our tremendous courage, faith and hope.
My friend I am not telling you she doesn't want your M it is just she needs to figure that out without you.
She just maybe doesn't want it right now.
This isn't about DBing any more you have already been through that.
This is about loving someone so much that you understand that the best thing for them is to let them go and still love them no mattter which choice they make.
No one can kill your love for her you see? It is yours to give.
Give the best kind of love you will ever give her, the kind that places her well being and spiritual growth before your own desires.
Let her go and heal yourself so you can be a the best man you can be for her and your children. This is where your courage, hope and faith has to go.
Trust that the best thing for her will be the only hope for your M.
My W's started her A in Sept.'09 we are on parallel paths. I know that means nothing in MLC but we the LBSs, we have to move through this.
Keep moving Miss. Keep stepping forward.
And thank you for your encouraging words to me today.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
