She's still throwing stuff at you (and it makes no difference in the level of respect if it hits you or not). I just can't understand why you can't see how awful that is for a woman to treat her H that way.

You are still apologizing to her. Just when you could really gain more ground, you turn around and start pleading with her again. I know it's been very hard for you. You have some dedicated people here who is working to help you through this. You deserve so much better in a wife. Maybe she'll realize that one day and decide that she's ready to be that woman, but today obvisiously isn't the day, so continue to press forward in what you've been told to do.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!