Just got a call from the WAW. I had sent her a text just saying, " Hope your having a good day " nothing more.
Had a pleasant enough conversation. She actually apologized for the way she spoke to me yesterday ! She was cranky and in a lot of pain ( back & kidney problems ). She was VERY inquisitive about the new house I have. But also seemed a tad nonchalant at the same time.
She did say she was sick of her retail job and would go back to school for ANYTHING if she didnt have to worry about paying bills. Now I have been begging her for YEARS to go back to school for SOMETHING, ANYTHING to get out of the rut of dead end retail work. Now for years I had kindly suggested she would be really good at nursing of some type, LPN, RN something in that field and its something thats always hiring and she resisted for one reason or another. So today I broached it again when she said she would go back to school for "anything" at this point she's so frustrated. And she actually didnt argue about the idea this time.
I have to constantly remind myself to take the littlest pleasant thing and savor it. PRO = we had a really nice half hour or more talk, mostly her venting, I am happy about that. CON= She sounded somewhat more "sure " of herself and her decision to WA as opposed to last night when she was mad at me for finally waking up. Not really sure where this is going. I still dont expect her to come racing back, but Im still wondering about all her curiosity about the house, her frustration with work and how I might be able to turn that to my advantage.
Seems maybe there are a few things I CAN offer her afterall that he cant, besides the obvious. I KNOW my new place is smaller then where she is now and it would be cramped for sure but................
Not really sure how to play this just yet. Although I know myself well enough to know that if she mentioned coming back I would most certainly jump at it. BUT, one requirement would certainly be an IMMEDIATE divorce from him, and I seriously doubt she's anywhere close to trusting me that much to do that. Plus I still have to figure out exactly where their kids fit in the scheme of things. I know they will have to have some kind of continuing contact because they have kids together, the question is how to balance that with standing my ground on making it clear if we are to reconcile that there be NO contact beyond whats necessary for the kids sake, if thats even possible.
