My Husband Just Left Me

[BeingMe]

It takes time. What you have to keep telling yourself is that you are no good to anyone unless you take care of you. I don't say you shouldn't care about him, but I do say that you should care from a distance, emotionally and geographically. You've just started on this journey, so give yourself a break. You're not going to suddenly stop the obsessive thoughts immediately. But, slowly it will lessen as you live your life, going out with friends, concentrating on hobbies, going to the gym, reading a book, or whatever. I would advise keeping a journal to see how you are progressing. Although, writing here is pretty much a journal too.

You don't sound pathetic; you are just being honest about how you feel. This is a good place to let it all out because we don't know you in real life, and we don't judge, only give advice that you can take or leave. Often the advice given here is from similar or more painful experience. We have all run this race; some are at the beginning, and some have gone beyond the end. In time, you will get your stride, get your second breath, and as I do, wonder why you worried so much. I wouldn't eat for days because of my obsessive thoughts. I felt I was in a whirlpool of negative, and worrying imaginings. Thank goodness, that's over for me, and I am sure it will be for you too. Just give it time.

Take care.