You do sound very centered and that is very good. I am sorry your H sprung this on you w/o any discussion and I am glad you were able to voice that to him.
I am also glad you let him know you were keeping your options wide open about moving your future.
Lastly, very good on the "you don't live here anymore" line to your exH.
You handled all of this VERY well (past and present) and for that you should forever be proud of yourself.
I can sort of relate to what you said that being divorced won't be much different than what your life is right now (as in the logistics of it all). I felt the same way. My H and I didn't live together and we might as well had been divorced. Once our separation was final (legally through the courts) it was him that sort of felt the reality of it all. For me it really wasn't much different except our admin stuff was structured and not quite as "loose".
Anyhow, I am sorry things didn't work out as you had hoped they would but I am glad you are what you are.
