We exchanged only brief pleasantries and then he - all smiles - offered me a ride in the car back to the MC, saying "this should confuse the gossipers!") but I (politely) told him thanks, it's gorgeous out, I'd prefer to walk, and then said goodbye. He seemed puzzled, hurt, and actually a little offended that I didn't take him up on the offer of a ride. (??)
All charm -- then offended? Sounds like he had a hidden agenda. That you didn't play along made him go off and pout.
Originally Posted By: MarieC
He's been sending me a lot of emails since the end of May, too. In them, he's also full of compliments - about my intelligence (I think he wants me to edit his thesis, now that he is apparently working on it again), says he knows no one with my integrity, says I'm kind and good. He told me he learned so much from me, that I'm principled and live according to my values and most people don't.
I know I'D be confused, if not for:
Originally Posted By: MarieC
The neighbors tell me that the bimbo beer waitress is calling him his fiance and that he went on vacation with her to her home country to meet her parents. This coincides with the week he was "working on his thesis" and couldn't be reached by email or phone AND that the skank's bar was closed for renovations. Also reality: he is living with this amoral bimbo, has a bank account with her (bank called ME by accident about HER trouble logging in to their joint account) , and has said and done NOTHING to indicate any change in his plans or his intentions.
He's trying to cake-walk. Raunchy lifestyle from OW, brains and $ from you.
Originally Posted By: MarieC
Since I got an infection from them and had to take antibiotics for a week, I know he's not using condoms, so I am bracing myself for a pregnancy announcement any day now. It's very hard.
I can imagine!
You have to determine what your boundaries are. If a baby is the deal-breaker for you, then let that be the "line in the sand" at which you begin divorce proceedings. Let him know.
The bottom line is: actions speak louder than words. He's straddling the fence right now, flirting with and pining for you, but living and banking with OW. Bimbo is proceeding like they're together.
If he wants to reconcile with you, OW HAS to go. Then he has to apologize. He also has to have a clean bill of health.
Originally Posted By: MarieC
Not a PEEP from him since, and he's been so chatty (4-5 emails/day/most days for last three weeks.)
Hmm. It sounds like:
1. He was buttering you up for something that you nixed with your refusal to ride with him that day, and now he's either pouting or working on a new strategy.
or
2. There's some crisis brewing with OW, like she found out about the texts/emails or someone told her they saw you two together.
Either way, I imagine you'll find out soon enough -
Enjoy your trip! My 3 kids are on their 2nd day of summer break, bored, and driving me nuts...
