Just found out she already filed

[ImprovedRomeo]

Her response:

Fine, I obviously can't take the large items but we can at least make a list of who is getting what and submit to the lawyers for the record. I can take whatever will fit in my car if that works and I will get a mover to remove the large items at a date that works for both you and the mover. Is there a way that you can burn my files and bookmarks as well as photos to a disc for me? I would really appreciate it.

I would like DD to attend the [private] school because I feel she would thrive in that environment more so than at [public school]. I am comfortable paying the tuition for the 2010-2011 school year and reserving settlement on the matter to the attorneys/court. If you could pay the 'daycare' fees associated with the school (before and after school care), that would be nice otherwise we'll work that out at a later date too. I figure that we would have to split the childcare fees at any public school she attends anyway. At the least, its for a year for stability, at the most as long as we can send her there. If you just look at their site you'd see what a wonderful place it is and how much she would love to go there. If you insist on a public school, my choice would be to get her into [another distric] Elementary (X and some other [current school] kids are going there) if I could or to [another school] in [my district] since her Daisy troop friends and X and Y go there. At least she would go in knowing some other kids if she has to go public.

I know about her graduation. I sent in a previous email that I would pick her up at 3:30 (that is the time they requested) and bring her back for the ceremony. I brought something for the last party so if you could sign up for this one it would be helpful.

Thanks.

My initial thoughts: "you should've thought of all this before...just like I'd said. But you only think about today and never tomorrow. How the heck am I supposed to pay you x amount and still send her to private school? we now have basically one income and two households. I can't afford even the day care payments at this time. Two, you're wrong on the stability part- it's more stable that she goes to a new school once and not have to switch again in 6 months or a year- especially going from private to public if we can't afford it later (which I already know we can't). Lastly, as for which public school this is her house and had we all still lived here she would've gone to this school. She'll make new friends no matter where she goes what's important in her life right now is stability, peace and harmony.