She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

[steady]

Hi tbart. I'm a little confused - did you guys agree on a D or is it still open? You kind of said both in your last post.

Maybe it's time for you to lay down the direction. I'm assuming you want to work on your marriage. How about this:

Tell her you are in it 100% to repair your marriage. You want both of you to commit to one year with divorce not being an option at all during that time. You need her to fully commit - this includes marriage counseling, individual counseling and whatever else might help you guys. Maybe a Retrouville retreat weekend. Google it if you never heard of it.

Also tell her she has two weeks to decide if she's onboard with this plan. If she isn't then you want to proceed with the D. If she won't commit, and jump in with both feet (it is a leap of faith) then what's the point of going through the motions of looking like you are working on the marriage.

Maybe some other people can chime in on this.

Again, it's only an idea. Nothing's etched in stone.