Well, I got a text asking if I had sent flowers. (There are other people with my first name that are significant to her) I let her stew in it before I responded ans she phoned me before I could. I said they were from me and she said she was surprised. I siad I thought it would be different. Then I texted why she was surprised. She said flowers were not my style. They're beautiful! Thanks. My heart wanted to say "You haven't seen my style in years." Brain won and I said nothing Thanks Puppy. This is why I'm asking for help. I've read DR and DB but it's all lstill new to me. It's tough when, based on what I read, I should be in LRT mode due to the newness of the D bomb. But then I read other threads where the little positives from her suggest she is looking for something to connect to. Now you describe "full flight mode" that suggests I should be doing something else. Do I need to try to understand her position before I can select a srategy? My opinion is that, since there should be no R talk, and I only have actions to rely on (some good and bad), interpreting/mind reading is bad, I have no idea what's really going on? Is she in full flight? AN actual EA/PA? Is she acting out to shock me into action? Is she "asking" for an olive branch? If you ad all her actions up all I get is "running away". She appears happy and becoming what I would call her old self when we met. Should be no surprise I'm confused. I have to stop trying to interpret. GAL. No sense listening to her cause it can't be believed. Detach. God, this one is hard. Tough to happily find your old happiness when you're miserable
