still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

I just texted WH (he eventually called me) to ask why the paperwork was dated 5/14 but he just gave it to me. He replied:

"to be completely honest,going in and working on that paperowrk was the hardest and most emotional thing I've ever had to do. I just shoved everything in a folder and didn't want to look at it or deal with it after I was done. I know that doesn't make much sense, probably. I also felt like we were getting along fairly good and didn't want that to change, even though I knew I had to talk to you about it."

So I replied that I wasn't going to turn mean and nasty, but that he caught me off guard and I would have appreciated a heads up. I said that I had some other questions and wished we had some time to talk although I know he was busy working. Well, he called me.

He said "I'm sorry for springing that on you. I don't know how to do that kind of thing." ???

I said "well if it is something you want to do, then you just have to make yourself do it. But I haven't heard anything from you since 4/28 so I didn't know what was happening. I would have appreciated some information."

He apologized and said he sees how that would be hard.

Then I told him that I was shocked he was moving to my town with her. He said that he wanted to be closer to S and didn't want his visitation time to be taken up by driving in the car. I told him that since I was thinking of moving (the town would be closer to where OW lives currently), it would have been nice to know that he was planning on moving over here. He apologized. He said "well nothing is set...I'm not locked into anything."

I asked him if he was renting or leasing. He said it was a year long lease so he can move anywhere after that.

Then we discussed some other logistic stuff and he was just crying, telling me he wanted to be as fair (financially) as possible even though he knows the D isn't fair to me.

He said I could stay in the house as long as possible because the market sucks for selling it so we wouldn't get as much money if we sold it now. I just said I would know better what I wanted to do next year.

Just sharing.