And, be sure to tell him how great he was last night. Let him feel good, he deserves it. It was no easy thing for him to do.
Plus, there is still the belated make-up sex...
BTW, here's a thought -- maybe the broom stuff started brewing because he feels just as scared, insecure and confused about where things are going as you do. Your coping mechanism is self-abuse. His coping mechanism is external validation from OW.... Something to think about if/when you get to therapy to discuss how to avoid cheating -- he needs a new coping mechanism for stress, hurt, fear, confusion...
