Great, a few edits... And, YES, you are saying you don't trust him, don't play games...
"Gabe,
You were so brave and loving last night. You were my knight in shining armour. Thanks for your apology and reassurance that ours is a relationship that we both want. We are both growing so much, and it feels good to do it together, scary and hard as it is.
Moving forward, feeling so insecure and scared doesn't work for me and I'm pretty sure it isn't any fun for you either. So, let's change that. I want concrete reassurance that you plan to have no contact with the broom. This includes no phone calls, text messages, facebooking, emailing, or in-person visits at work or elsewhere. No contact, period. And, I want for all of us to be very clear on this. So, either call her with me listening on speaker phone and tell her that you are building a new relationship and cannot have any contact with her at all - no phone calls, text messages, facebook or email and no dropping in on your place of employment, and then delete her from your phone entirely. Or, write her a letter, and let me read it and mail it to her. Moving to no contact is a very important step for both of us moving forward, together.
Also, I need some concrete reassurance as we rebuild trust that my trust is well-placed. This requires transparency. We don't need secrets if we are being honest with each other -- so, to help increase my level of trust, I'd like to have open access to your phone with no erased texts, access to your email, again without deleting your deleted messages, and access to your facebook account. I'm happy to offer you the same. I believe that you want our R to grow and to rebuild our trust fully. So do I. These are the things I feel I need in order to begin that process.
BTW, I'd still like some belated hot make-up sex. If you can deliver, I'll make it worth your while."
