How should I handle MLC direct lying?

[amg2]

Yes that does help. The thing is, I don't know if he's having inappropriate contact with anyone else or not. I stopped looking at phone recs over a month ago b/c I was driving myself nuts with it. At that time it looked to me like he was having email/internet contact with someone. I figured as long as he wasn't working on our M it didn't matter and stopped looking.

He still, in my eyes, isn't "working" on our M. I think he thinks that doing chores for me, etc. at house is a form of working on M. He seems very out of touch with how bad, serious and dangerously close to D this situation is. Like he thinks I'm 'holding down the fort' while we take time to think. I've always been the 'doer' of everything, the fixer, and I almost think he doesn't know how to make a move unless it's in response to one of my moves. And I'm not making any moves, so...nothing. MLC fog sure doesn't help. I orignally told him 4 months ago (he may or may not remember) that 'if he was 1) in counseling and 2) willing to open up and talk to me, I'd consider the possibility of us staying married'. Honestly, since tht time, I've become uncertain if he's in shape to go to counselng--maybe not yet. Haven't pushed or harped on this.

I think fact that I "asked him to leave" the house plays a role too. I know he'd have left anyway had I not, but he seemed surprised when I asked him not to come home. Almost like I kicked him out so I'm in control of the situation--not true.

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