Well for the most part I have been busting the A. Validating her feelings she has for OM was wrong.
I use to do all those things you mentioned BEFORE our sitch. Since reading DR and being on this forum I learned to validate many things W says/feels but not all. My W is sick or something is hurting nearly everyday and I validate never telling her it is wrong.
The only time I tell her the way she feels is wrong is when W tells me she wants out of the marriage and when W says she is unattractive. I need to know how to validate when W says she is unattractive rather than just saying "No, your beautiful"
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
